Miscarried episodes~ The home traditional way

Following the event of my loss I experienced the other day, I finally miscarried naturally on Friday, 11th Jan. It was not a pleasant memory but it was a valuable experience of a lifetime.

After the hospital doctor told me that I had a missed abortion, I went back home with my husband and had a long conversation with my sister-in-law on the phone. She had gone through the same thing before, and she didn't go for the ERPOC process, so i intended to seek for her advice.

The idea of having someone sticking a tool into my bottom to suck the foetus out really scared me to death. And I also hate the thought of being disable and half-paralyse during the operation. So, I opt to do it naturally. My sister-in-law advised me to do a hot compress method, which in malay we called it as "bertungku". A heated river stone will be wrapped in a cloth and applied to the abdominal area, and sometimes a bit of the thigh area. By doing this method, the rotten foetus, the baby's sac and residual blood clots will be soften from the supplies of heat and will dissolves naturally through your bottom.

I did this method constantly for 2 days beginning on Thursday, 10th Jan and by 6pm the next day I started to feel the pains of miscarriage. However, they were bearable throughout the hours, and finally the foetus was out by 10pm, followed by the baby's sac at 1am. All the pains that I endured finally subsided and my breast has stopped feeling tender ever since. I guess the pregnancy hormones had reduced following my miscarriage.

On Tuesday 15th Jan, I was supposed to be warded and the next day an ERPOC process will be performed to clear my womb. I was so scared that the doctor might found some tissues left in my womb which an ERPOC process is necessary to undertake in order to remove them. So I googled up ways to do home treatment for cleaning the uterus so that the ERPOC process is not needed for myself.

Here's what I found out some ways that u can do at home, at an absolutely minimal cost~

1. Hot compress using a heated river stone wrapped with cloth

2. Sprinkle some cinnamon powder into your food (your warm soup, your drinks, your bread)

3. Doing some acupuncture process- apply some hot balm on your abdominal area, the tender spot in between your thumbs and forefingers, your shins and your knees and rub them gently

4. Take a hot bath twice a day

Within the days before I should get warded, I obediently followed all these tips. When the day finally arrived, I went to the hospital and the doctor performed a trans-vaginal scan through my bottom. He informed me that a tissue was found still left in my womb but an ERPOC process was not necessary as the tissue will eventually comes out naturally within 2 weeks time. According to him, the size of the tissue is just about 9mm while the minimum size of the tissue requires a removal using ERPOC process is 15mm. However, I was required to come to the clinic to perform a scan again on 1st February.

I was then discharged to go back and that ended my worries and nightmares ^_^ Alhamdulillah terima kasih ya Allah kerana memudahkan perjalanan ku ;-)

Now I am still in a healing process and still need to perform the hot compress method until 2 weeks time. It is believed to help the womb contract, break down fats and prevent the womb from sagging at old age. Apart from that, I also need to take other traditional remedies such as malaysian sea cucumber drink known as "air gamat" and turmeric drink known as "air jamu kunyit" to cleanse the uterus. My mother-in-law had booked a person to massage me later on for general care of the uterus and to return back my body just like before the pre-pregnancy state.

Hospitalised for almost 8 hours

"Air Gamat & "Air Jamu Kunyit" and a river stone

I will be back to work by the end of January.

Miscarried episodes~Breaking the rules,A day in IKEA

Today me and my husband did the craziest thing ever. Despite all the pantang larangs that I need to bear during my recovery period, we had both went to the IKEA store. (Moms, pls forgive me!)

He was supposed to finish work at 7pm today, but lately he is always home early to look after me. So, at 5pm he was already at home, and we were lying on the bed when that crazy idea crossed my mind. I told him, why not? I could use some fresh air & it might do me good. He was not into it at first but gave in due to my endless persuasions.

Where did that idea came from? My husband have always had this series of complaints about not having a proper couch to sit ever since we moved in to our new home. Many a time he asked permission to buy an IKEA sofa. I asked, y IKEA? They r damn expensive! Y not cavenzi, westcourt, or kedai perabot cina je? He said it's good to invest a bit in the selection of sofa as we will use it for a very very long time. He pointed out that my mom's sofa had torn out within a year as a result of fancying a lower price.

Tired of arguing, i eventually agreed. He started to list down everything he intended to buy & kept the list until today.

As soon as the idea sinked in, i told myself, I won't be walking much anyway.. He had obtained the product codes in his list. All we need to do is just go directly to the counter & place our orders. Simple right? So, y not!!

I jumped out of bed (despite my condition) and prepared all the necessities that I might need for myself. Haiya... tasha kalau dah excited, sekejap boleh sihat! so, with thick socks, sweater and hand gloves, we were finally set to go.

It was not a pleasant experience though. Out of excitement, I was smiling je most of the time. Rasa macam excited gila breaking rules. Humans tend to do crazy things unquestionably. And I'm no exceptional. But due to a lot of movements, pains finally triggered. Thank God everything went smooth & I didn't create any scene.

My husband bought an L-Shape chaise lounge and a wardrobe for us. All this while I had to keep my clothes in boxes :-( Today he has put an end to my poverty boxes ^_^

Like usual, IKEA requires 3 days period to deliver our items right to our doorstep. So, we only got to enjoy our new furnitures by this Thursday ^_^ Apart from that, he'd also bought some other things like stools, cushions, a throw, photo frames, scented candles and a lamp shade. I guess he needed to redeem back his satisfaction due to our cancelled trip to Indonesia..

After we shopped, we went to have dinner at the IKEA restaurant, and I had my favourite meatballs!! ^_^ I didn't have that much of an appetite though, he had to finish some for me.

I was so happy and for a split moment I forgot all my sorrows. Thanks hubby, you never fail to make me smile.....

I know u r not that financially stable. But what happened to me had opened up your soul to show me the best of u. I am so grateful! Thanks hubby ^_^ Xoxo!!

Sorrow of mine~My Story

This is actually a sequel to my pregnancy entry that I had posted previously.

If u read those, i believe u'd cme across d ones that I mentioned about complications. As i told u, since the day i figured out that i was pregnant i was having some spotting in my discharge. I did seek for medical advice but all doctors that i met could not predict anything as the pregnancy state was too early. Usia kehamilan masih terlalu awal utk tahu punca sebenar pendarahan kecil yg I alami.

The day I made a home pregnancy test and it turned out to be positive, i went to a clinic to chck y my stomach hurts so badly. The doctor prformed an ultrasound scan but was not able to see anything, not even a baby's sac. Though it was frustrating, It was also acceptable given that it was still too early & normal laa kalau x nampak within the 4th to 5th weeks.. I went back home & carry on with my daily lives assuming that i was still pregnant n nothing cud b wrong. Like my mom said, it cud just be~pembawaan bayi..

On the 19/12/2012, my stomach triggered another painful cramps.. I rushed to the hospital and the doctor did an ultrasound scan but still wasnt able to see anything. He then performed a TVS scan, which was through my bottom & finally could see a baby's sac and a fetus but with no heartbeat. I was then at 6 and a half weeks old. I was advised by the doctor to wait till about 2 weeks more for another scan and to see whether the baby's heartbeat wud develop by then. Frustrated, i went back home.

It was more than 2 weeks of waiting, it was almost a month.. I could see a bump was performing on my belly and I was about 9 weeks old. Loyally consumed vitamins n milk, I continued believing that my baby was growing. Although day by day I experienced a light cramping n pink / brown discharge, i assumed it was just those things that normal moms experienced during the first trimester. Finally on the 9th January 2013, as I was about to go off from the office, there was fresh blood leaking from my bottom and I rushed to the clinic. The doctor made an ultrasound scan and figured out that I had a miscarriage and the ultrasound scan showed my pregnancy was at 5 weeks old when it was supposed to be 9 weeks old. It was hard for me to believe, and i was not ready to accept it.

I went off from the clinic and rushed to the hospital. I drove alone and with all the nonsense twirling inside my head, i barely realised i was driving. All i heard were loud honking as my visions were blurred by the tears streaming down my face. At the hospital, i was with my husband. I waited patiently and finally i was brought in a scan room by a female doctor and she performed another TVS scan thru my bottom.

Finally, she told me the same thing that the clinic doctor told me. That my baby had stopped developing eversince week 5 and it was a missed miscarriage, and there was still no heartbeat.

She adviced me to undergo an ERPOC process to which they will vacuum out the fetus and the baby's sac and she wanted me to get it done by the nxt day. I wasnt ready and asked for another 1 week time to let it go out naturally. The doctor agreed, she admitted that after an erpoc, it might be a bit difficult and requires some time to have the second chance of conceiving.

Anyhow, i still have to do it as the fetus could turned rotten inside my womb and my health could be affected.

I was devastated. My husband hugged me and told me it was okay. i cried so hard. even my plans for honeymoon in Indonesia also need to be cancelled due to my state. But he said everything will be okay and that he is thankful to God that I am okay and still alive, according to him, thats all that matters. Everyone surrounded me keep telling me the same thing again and again. That it was okay, that i was still young and still got a lot of time to go for another chance. Tired of crying, I finally accept the fact that it was not meant for me this time.

With tears streaming down my face, I realised that things happen for a reason. I wanted to be angry, i wanted to start questioning my fate. But I didnt do it cos I know He knows best. Maybe He is telling me that it is not my time yet.

Whatever has happened, I am very grateful.. Because he has given me faith that I CAN conceive. If anything, I am very grateful to be given the pregnancy experience even for a short while.. I know i cant afford to have a breakdown, this is just a small thing that happens in life, and this is such a lucky thing to experience compared to other bigger ones that women experience in their lives.

Today, i went to the hospital again with determination, that i want to end this episode once and for all. I am getting a very painful and throbbing headaches since yesterday which I suspected is due to my state and keep vomiting whenever I eat something. The fetus and everything are still inside my womb, and I had undergo a traditional home remedies since yesterday but there was nothing came out from my bottom, so I am very determined to undergo the erpoc process.

I will be admitted to the hospital on Tuesday 15th and will undergo the process on the next day, jan 16th. Please pray for my health... I believe I will survive this test and will be healthy once again. And will have the chances to update many more stories in my blog ^_^ Will update you guys later once I'm conscious and well k! Thanks for being with me from the start. Xoxo

A bun in the oven

Alhamdulillah, after tying the knot with my husband 3 months ago, I am now having a bun in the oven! ~Yes! I am 8 weeks pregnant !! Isn't that fast? But FYI, me & my husband planned for it & was expecting it .. Syukur Alhamdulillah kerana Allah berikan peluang ini kpd kami ^_^

Yeah, yeah.. I know it's too early to share the news with public. I tahu ramai org berpendapat, jangan bagitahu org kalau kita pregnant selagi belum 3 months & above. I truly understand the concept & the truth behind it, I dont deny that. Not only malays having this typical adat, chinese pun akan bagitahu org about their pregnancy after 5 months. 

Tapi mmg x salah utk kita share. Kalau ditakdirkan perkara itu x menjadi, itu semua adalah kuasa & kehendak tuhan. Who are we to blame His will. Ini x, kalau sesuatu yg buruk berlaku pada kita, org sekeliling akan cakap "Tu lah, kecoh2 lagi bagitahu semua org, kan dah padah..." As if manusia yg menentukan malapetaka seseorang. As if bagitahu org ttg news ni akan menjadi suatu tanda yg dipanggil 'bad omen' kpd diri kita. There is no such thing. We share good things and bad things with our loved ones. Itu semua lah yang akan menjadi kenangan pahit-manis dlm kehidupan kita. Kalau takdir menentukan nasib kita x seperti expected, apa nak buat, redha & berusaha lg.

The reason why I share this news is just simply to commemorate the meaningful moment in my life & to share the precious experiences that I am having right now. And of course by sharing I hope lovely people out there especially my family & friends would be praying for my health & the condition of my baby. Sebagai ibu yg hamil, I just want to be happy & I dont want to think much, just take care of myself and keep praying to Allah that my baby is developing well.

So anyway, I had my last period on the 10th of Nov last year. As I told u, I was expecting this pregnancy & so, I waited & kept on waiting for my next period. I was very lucky, as soon as I reached 5 days of missed period, I went for a home pregnancy test & discovered that I am pregnant. It's simple, if u missed ur period for more than 5 days, there should be something wrong with ur body, it's either u r pregnant, or u r just experiencing a hormonal changes in ur body after losing ur virgnity. As for my case, luckily it was due to pregnancy. That was why I waited for 5 days to finally did the pregnancy test, as it is more likely that u r pregnant if u missed ur period more than 5 days.

Other than a missed period, I had also experienced a breast tenderness. It is very similar to the pain of pre-menstrual syndrome. Other than that, I felt exhausted & difficult to breathe. I was breathless most of the time & got tired easily.

By the way, I bought the UTP (Urine Test Pregnancy) Kit from Watson pharmacy in Ampang Point, which cost me RM9. I was been told to perform the test early in the morning to get an accurate result. However, I didnt bother to wait as I could not hold the suspense. I did the test in the evening around 6pm.

This is the brand recommended by most certified doctors

The result was of cos, positive. I went to the clinic to confirm this a week later & Alhamdulillah I am really pregnant.

My husband was really happy & dia bernazar membotakkan rambut dia... hehehe...

Morning sickness? I never had that before, but these past few days I am starting to get a migraine, a really bad headache till I feel that my eyes are hurting. But the only solution to this is just to get enough rest and sleep as I will feel better after that. But it will strikes on a regular basis :-( It's so troublesome, affecting my performance at work :-(

Selalu sgt pening & sakit kepala!! Sabar je laaa.. . So far muntah & mual belum lg & I hope I'll never have to experience that. Susah kalau byk ragam, kita ni nk bekerja utk membantu ekonomi keluarga.

What vitamins & supplements I'm taking? Following the doctor's advice at Klinik Kesihatan Ibu & Anak (Masa buat buku pink hari tu), I just consume folic acid 5mg 1 pill per day. I bought Obimin pills from pharmacy last month but due to some complications that I am having right now, my doctor told me to stop taking Obimin for a while, and wait til I am 3 months pregnant.

Only cost me RM10 and it contains 100 pills. U can get it from any pharmacy.

What complications yg I maksudkan? I am experiencing some spotting on a daily basis. I am producing a red, pink and brown discharges daily & that hardly appears to be normal. In some cases yes, there are moms out there who are experiencing such spotting or bleeding, even throughout the whole first trimester. My mom had the same issues while she was pregnant with my eldest brother. She suffered the same migraine like I do & also some bleeding & spotting. However, Alhamdulillah abang sulung saya sihat & berjaya dilahirkan sempurna sifat. Mom said those might be the 'pembawaan' & according to her moms are experiencing different 'pembawaan' depending on the bodies & keturunan. In shaa Allah hopefully that is really the case I am having right now, not some other complications.

By the way, Obimin vitamins r very good for ur health semasa u hamil. It contains a complete vitamins that are needed by ur body & kandungan. Next month when I reach 3 months of my pregnancy, I will continue to take this Obimin pills. Anyway I bought this from Watson Pharmacy in Ampang Point& it cost me around RM25, the cheapest brand available as it doesnt include Omega 3 oil & DHA. Dont worry, this is good enough.

This is the one that I'm having in my keep.

During my visit at Klinik Kesihatan Ibu dan Anak (KKIA), the doctor adviced me to drink Anmum, a dairy product to support my nutrition needs as a pregnant lady. My mother-in-law bought Anmum Materna for me from Kedai 'SpeedMart 99' which cost RM33. Kalau beli kat farmasi or hypermarket, it will cost RM36, mahal sikit. The taste is quite ok, I can't take it when it's hot or warm. I terpaksa simpan dlm peti ais & bila dh sejuk baru I minum. My doctor said just as long as u minum, that's good enough dan kalau x boleh telan sangat2, masukkan dalam acuan tepung & buat lah lempeng.. hehe... That was the doctor's advise.

Pantang larang dalam kehamilan? I dont know that much about this part but I avoid pineapples, junk food & carbonated drink (Air gas). I heard people says if minum 100 plus dibolehkan for moms but I still dont take it anyway. Better dont risk urself. Although I got little information & lack of knowledge on this, I always refer back to google before I make any decision on my food intake. I bring my BB phone everywhere I go & make sure to google about the food I'm about to eat before consumption. Pregnancy has teach me to become more alert on my diet.

Do I experience any constipation? On and off, yes, I do face it. The only solution that work out for me is eating a lot of veggies, the green ones & reduce the intake of meat. Trust me, it will work out. Other than that, Anmum also is helping me a lot on this issue. I believe it is provided with probiotics for a good digestion.

I dont have any cravings yet while in my pregnancy state. Other than asking my husband to help me in cooking, I guess I belum lg mengidam apa2. The reason y I malas masak nowadays, I susah nk bau ayam & ikan.

Hari tu ada rasa nak makan steamboat, tapi bila dia tak layan, I macam ok whatever~ terus hilang rasa tu, sbb I mmg x kisah, tapi nk dikatakan rezeki I, tiba2 my father-in-law bawak makan kt Johnny's last week hehee....

My mom said I look haggard and that could possibly mean I got a boy. Haha.. I dont mind that at all, boy or girl, as long as my baby develops well and berjaya dilahirkan dengan sempurna, that is more than what I am asking for. In shaa Allah...

Jom tinjau camne keadaan baby in 8 months pregnancy:-

Tahniah - embrio anda sekarang bergelar fetus, yang bermakna 'zuriat'. Uterus anda meregang untuk memuatkan penghuni baru ini, yang sekarang berukuran sekitar 0.6 inci / 1.6 sentimeter. Banyak perubahan berlaku pada minggu ini - ekor embrio telah hilang, dan semua organ, otot dan saraf mula berfungsi. Sekarang tangan boleh dibengkokkan di pergelangannya, dan jari kaki yang berselaput dahulu beransur hilang. Kelopak mata mula menutupkan mata.

Kehamilan anda mula menukar bentuk badan anda juga. Payudara anda mungkin membesar sehingga anda memerlukan bra yang boleh menyangga dengan lebih kuat daripada bra lama. Anda akan menyedari yang ukuran pinggang anda mula bertambah, sehingga anda terpaksa menyimpan jean kegemaran anda sehingga tahun depan. Jika anda banyak meminum air mengandungi flourida - lapan gelas atau lebih sehari - anda sudah tentu mendapat cukup flourida dan ini akan mengintegrasikan kalsium dan fosforus dengan kukuh ke dalam gigi dan tulang bayi anda yang sedang berkembang itu.

• Nota: Pakar-pakar menyatakan bahawa setiap bayi berkembang secara berlainan - walaupun semasa dalam kandungan. Muka surat-muka surat di bahagian ini disediakan untuk memberi maklumat umum mengenai perkembangan fetus dalam rahim.
 
Sources: www.babycenter.com.my

Bercerita tentang pregnancy, I nk sentuh part nak register buku pink dkt Klinik Kesihatan Ibu Dan Anak. It is a must for u to do this even though u dont plan utk melahirkan di hospital kerajaan.

I pergi register semasa I masih 6 minggu. The doctor said we need to register as soon as we discover that we are pregnant. So I pergi at 7 in the morning & balik 11.30 am. Sgt lama... They will make a blood test, urine test, and siap ada ceramah 30 minit utk semua ibu2.

Some people I know had adviced me to bring marriage certificate la, gambar la, mcm2. I prepared everything but ended up they didnt require any of that. Just dtg bawak IC je lah...

So my next appointment will be this coming 21st January. Hope semuanya berjalan lancar. They will obtain my ultrasound scan on that date & check diabetes sbb my mom had it once. Dieorang ckp kalau ada keturunan mmg kena check...

Tu je lah from the time being. Wait for my next entry k!